My journey with infertility http://jillhune.wix.com/jillhune Marissa Infertility is a serious problem for many women. Including me. I heard this diagnosis many years ago. Despite everything, even now I cry a lot. My biggest desire is to become mother. I refused from anything. Just to have a chance to feel the happiness of motherhood. Doctor said that surrogacy is the best variant for us to have own children. We looked for the clinic for a long time. Finally we decided in Ukraine. Perhaps their medical technologies are not so popular. But Ukraine earned its favorable reputation. We were in the biggest reproductive center Biotexcom. According to their laws, surrogate mothers do not have any parental authority. After the birth of our daughter, I was so happy. I`m so grateful to have my daughter, she was born by another woman. She is the closest person for me in the whole world and now I can`t even imagine my life without my little sunshine. Patricia Infertility seems to be a “third rail” for social conversation. It’s an awkward and personal discussion which creates confusion, hurt feelings and mixed emotions for everyone. Meet my husband in my early ‘30s. I’ve spent my entire adult life PREVENTING pregnancy, so when he says “I’d like 4 or 5 kids”, I chuckle at my own wit as I callously respond “not with this uterus you won’t.” I really don’t think of myself as a mum. I am lot of things, but “Mum” isn’t one of them. But as I fall more in love and as I see him with children, I begin to see how having children with this man could be exactly what I want too. After trying “casually” for a couple of years, we finally make the dreaded journey to an infertility specialist. My visit to the doctor does little to ease my internal unrest. To say that my fertility doctor is a self-righteous donkey’s ass is somehow inadequate. My co-worker than advice to use IVF in one of Kiev clinic as she was there herself. They even offer all-inclusive packages for lower prices and with high rank of positive results. And they will prepare all needed documents for u. So we decided on it. During the first two weeks of your cycle when you’re doing IVF you’re going in for blood work and ultrasounds every day or every other day. After first cycle for three days I was on bed rest. Finally when it came we got the best news of our lives: we were pregnant. We were so happy. Now I have my miracle Hayley Young I’m in my late thirties. I have found a man I respect, admire and love, and who feels the same way about me. Together, we want to build a loving and caring family. But nature, as we’ve found out, does not work on our time clock. For several years now we have been trying to conceive, and every month, as the end of my cycle approaches, I wait with great anticipation, and then deep sadness. I had read all of the statistics, that one in five couples now have difficulty conceiving. Nowadays pregnancy gets exponentially more difficult to achieve as you enter your mid-thirties. But somehow I never thought I’d be one of those numbers. Somehow, I thought when I was ready, my body would be too. And one day doctor voiced me diagnose – it was severe endometriosis and infertility. We understood that time is getting on and we need to decide what we will do in such a situation. Surrogacy was the only chance for us to become happy parents. We studied all the information about the countries where such program is conducted, pricing and so on. And we found Ukrainian Biotexcom center. The price pleasantly surprised us — we paid 30 thousand euros for the surrogacy program. Joan You know, you tell so sweet about price for the surrogacy! I can’t agree with you and can’t say I like and support all these assisted reproductive technologies. Of course, I realize perfectly and know times have been changing. Modern women have much more rights and opportunities for their realization and fertilization. That is why the average age of the first time mother is experienced transformation in the recent years. And it isn’t so good and normal firstly just for women. Modern mothers are getting elder and they can get pregnant at any age via surrogacy and egg donation! Well, it’s not normal as for me. ART is very popular but at the same time, definitely, there are certain negative moments. First of all, not each of us can understand the general truth that it is really unsafe and difficult to get pregnant after thirty five years old. Till my thirty four I was concentrated only on my work and career. And one day I felt like it was time for children. But it seemed that my body had other plans and it’s easy to understand! Even though we were healthy I can’t conceive naturally. My OB confirmed that unfortunately I can’t have children and he recommended us to use the help of the surrogate mother. But I can’t accept such method of becoming a mother. I don’t support assisted reproductive technologies and artificial conception. I think it’s not normal to use surrogate motherhood service despite the fact it’s so popular today! Karin When you’re trying to conceive, it seems like every single person on the planet starts telling you to “just relax.” Honestly, you literally want to kick those people! You want to yell at them or trade places with them. Anything to make them realize just how impossible that really seems when month after month, day after day, you go through the same routines and the same emotions and the same disappointments. But I knew that trying to conceive was beginning to take an emotional toll on me. I always wanted to have a family, though I never had a specific time-frame or plan in mind. My husband and I met when and you know since that moment we made all decisions together. He suggested trying the fertility clinic as it was impossible to conceive naturally. And I agreed despite the fact I am afraid a little to use ART. Hmom Some years ago I was in Russia. I’m unable to have children since childhood. After the accident, my uterus was damaged. It is impossible for me to bear a baby. Together with my husband, we decided on surrogacy. It was a difficult choice for me. It’s not so easy to realize that your baby will be born with the help of another woman. Finally, we agreed that it’s the best option for us. We went to Moscow and find good clinic. They offered a high-level service. Also their price seemed not so high. When we came there everything was okay. It was a good clinic, responsible doctors. Surrogate mother they chose for me was so pleasant… It was going okay until the baby was born. Mother asked us to pay her additional money. We couldn’t do anything, as there are no laws in Russia protecting parents. Finally, she refused to give the baby to us. I was shocked. We had to go home without our child. After that situation 2 years have relinquished. But even now I began to cry when this story appears in my mind. My mother insists on the second try in Ukraine. I read a lot comments and on forums that Ukrainian centers are great.